Do you want to know what actually turns women on? It turns out that size, stamina or even appearance isn’t actually the be all and end all.
Sexpert Nadia Bokody revealed how you can get a woman excited - and it can be done in public before you even reach the bedroom.
Sexpert Nadia Bokody said you can turn a woman on by sending thoughtful messages and be attentive during the dayCredit: Instagram/nadiabokody
In her latest column for News.com.au, she cited a 2018 study which found men tend to get turned on in direct response to sexual stimuli, but women were far more aroused by contextual factors.
Nadia wrote: “In other words, how comfortable, attractive, and relaxed a woman feels when she’s about to have sex has a profound impact on whether that sex will even be enjoyable for her.”
She said that being thoughtful and attentive during the day - be it holding hands in the street or sending messages - can turn a woman on more than bedroom antics.
The sexpert explained: “Ironically, a woman is far more likely to climax if you consistently text her thoughtful messages throughout the day than she is if you know how to locate her G-spot with precision accuracy.
“This is because our brains play such an integral role in sexual excitement.”
In fact, I’m more aroused by someone holding my hand when we’re walking down the street together than I am by just about any form of foreplay.
She added: “The feeling of fingers confidently interlacing themselves through mine in public.
“A text asking how that project I was excited about went.
“Strands of hair being swept from my forehead when I’ve had a long day.
“These acts are all deeply erotic to me.
“In fact, I’m more aroused by someone holding my hand when we’re walking down the street together than I am by just about any form of foreplay.”
The Australian sexpert said some of the best sex of her life has been the result of a great texting exchange.
And she also added that it is no coincidence sex can “die off” in long-term relationships “around the same time couples ditch dating for staying in to sit on opposite ends of the couch on their phones.”
She explained: “For women, a lack of intimacy and excitement outside the bedroom translates to a lack of it in the bedroom, too.
“The good news is, this sexual tapering off is easily rectified.
“Simple acts like taking an interest in what’s going on in her life, arranging the odd night out, buying flowers ‘just because’ and making an effort to hold her gaze can dramatically boost a woman’s level of sexual interest in you.
“So too, can actively reducing her stress levels via dimming the lights, running a bath, or offering a massage before bed.
“When women are in a relaxed state and feel seen and heard by our partners, we’re at our most amenable to sex.”
Ironically, a woman is far more likely to climax if you consistently text her thoughtful messages throughout the day than she is if you know how to locate her G-spot with precision accuracy.
Nadia said that men should note that “great sex for women isn’t so much about whether we’re with the most skilled lover as it is about whether you’re tuned into our needs and can make us feel safe.”
She wrote: “You don’t need to have detailed knowledge of the G-spot or an extensive sexual repertoire to achieve this.
“You just need to hold your partner’s hand on occasion, sweep the hair out of her face when she’s had a bad day, and shoot off a text every so often reminding her she’s a bad b**ch.”
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